BDSM escorts: Experience the real ’50 Shades of Grey’ with a kinky escort [A Beginner’s Guide]

Jan 20, 2019
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What is BDSM?

BDSM is a short word for Bondage, Domination/Submission, Sadism and Masochism. This is a category of sex play that may range from the soft most extreme. All depends on what the involved parties find sexy or what turns them on. There are players who truly can enjoy a full equipped dungeon while others simply prefer to whip their kinky escort so she gets a boost of endorphins.

BDSM is a set of patterns in sexual behaviour that involves such notions as Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Submission/Sadism and Masochism. While these concepts may imply pain, humiliation or servitude, they could be regarded abusive and wrong in neutral social context. However, when performed by consent, as a part of sexual play with a BDSM escort, for example, these activities are meant to bring pleasure to the persons participating.
 

So, you want to date a BDSM escort?

Despite what many might think there’s nothing awkward with enjoying a BDSM escort service. Although this experience will spice up your sex life, we advise you to do your research online before trying the real deal. It is very important to indulge yourself in this game with a lot of love and appreciation for your kinky escort. These are the fundamentals to have an experience that will truly open your galaxy. In this article we will guide you and your BDSM escort  on how to properly dip your feet into this kinky play.
 

Respect the safety concepts

As common BDSM practices can imply actions that bring pain and restrict movement it might be potentially dangerous for the parties engaged. Therefore, implementing safety rules is an important precondition of any interaction.

This sex play can bring immense satisfaction as well as deep distress, but before actually practicing it the following safety principles should be considered.
The first safety concept is common sense. It means that whatever fantasy may be lived out, safety has to stand above all. Bondage, physical torture or servitude play should not endanger life of partners, so actions that can result in permanent injury or other health problems like disease-transmission must be avoided. It is also strongly advised that extreme forms must be practiced in trusted relationship only which means you have to know your BDSM girl for at least several years.

The next safety concept requires sharing responsibility among participants - no matter what roles are performed by whom. This responsibility is required by both towards oneself and the partner.

Finally, the last, but not the least important safety concept concerns freedom of choice. The term RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Risk) emphasizes that going into this play should be only be done with full understanding of the consequences.
 

Choose a role

In the safety concepts we have covered the fundamental components of this kinky play, now it’s time to decide which type of role you’d choose: submissive or dominant. If you are still not sure which role is perfect for you, you might want experiment a bit before going into the real deal. Some people even prefer to enjoy both roles. It is about finding the perfect balance for your BDSM escort and yourself.

All plays include roles as submission and domination. These concepts are present in every activity: where there is power, there is always subordination, and partners divide the roles of a master and a slave depending on situation, personal preferences or as a result of negotiation. The dominant enjoys the feeling of control, ownership and omnipotence aroused when he or she is granted absolute power over the submissive person. On the other hand, the submissive desires to be controlled, given orders or even punished for disobedience.

Hence follow the next related concepts, sadism and masochism. Sadists are those who take pleasure in hurting the partner, inflicting pain on him or her, whereas masochists conscientiously seek for suffering. Thus, both partners derive sensual pleasure from this kind of concepts combination in relationship and it actually becomes questionable who really holds the power.

Another important thing includes the top and bottom partners. The top is actually the giver, that is, he or she will be spanking, binding, flogging, pinching, applying various sex toys upon the bottom or otherwise humiliating/serving him or her. At that, it should be noted that being dominant is also possible from the position of the bottom, and on the contrary, topping may be performed by the submissive person on command. Some other synonymous are the "pitcher" and "catcher", the meaning of which can be easily interpreted. Assuming the above can last only for one scene, within the framework of certain relationship or as a life-style, 24/7. Roles chosen in sexual context are often opposed to those performed by the person in real life.
 

Be communicative

Communication is THE most important aspect in this sex play. Therefore, there can’t be enough communication before you start with your initial dose of kink. Whether you are dominant or submissive – both have to be able to communicate their requirements. It will build trust and understanding of each other’s needs. You will be able to understand if you are compatible with your BDSM escort or not.

You will learn more about your companion than you ever thought possible. You and your BDSM girl should understand the needs of the other and respect each other’s boundaries. If you or your kinky escort doesn’t like something, it’s the responsibility of both to tell each other. She can’t read your mind as well as you can’t read hers. Put your concern about getting rejected aside and tell her openly what you enjoy, what your passions, wishes and dreams are. High-class escorts will always listen to your requirements and respect your boundaries. Be honest as this is the only way you can experience the full beauty and eroticism of this kinky love game.
 

Spice it up

The use of toys can certainly enhance playtime between you and your BDSM girl. Without a doubt it will heat up the erotic sensations in this consensual power play. The great variety of toys presented in sex shops and other specialized stores varies in material, function and style. Depending on how exquisite your play is, what roles are adopted, where the limits are put as well as other factors you are free to choose from a scope of toys.

Practices as paddling, bastinado, flagellation, whipping will probably require toys like whips, slippers, paddles, birches, canes, and the like. When applying these kinds of toys in activities with a BDSM escort service, it is important not to be too rough. These toys can easily bruise, scratch or otherwise damage tissues and joints.

Toys adding to the savour of such practices as bondage, deprivation of senses and movement-restriction include gags, harnesses, muzzles, mummification toys, body bags and sleep sacks, ropes, cuffs and chains. These are usually presented in leather or metal, rubber or spandex and can be very simple and rather cheap as well as complex and expensive. Popular gags include balls, dildos and bridles, but such items of clothing as shoes or panties are also often used. Hoods with laces, zippers, eye or mouth holes or without them, are also good for bondage sessions. Harnesses and ropes are the sex toys that can be used directly for suspension and immobilizing the bottom or just serve as decoration creating the desired atmosphere for a particular scene, the latter often being the case for breast-oriented bondage. Also, while mummification gives total control of the bottom and unrestricted access to his or her body, it also allocates sole responsibility to the top, so due attention should be paid to ensure there are no breathing or overheating problems. Leaving a person speechless, senseless or motionless has a profound psychological impact and can intensify the feelings greatly but it also requires precaution and due care.

Sensation play, in its turn, presupposes its own set of toys that can include fur, feather and silk items. A large subgroup of kinky toys is intended for genital torture. The miscellaneous devices here range from penis and testicles rings, electro-shockers, mechanisms preventing erection through pain infliction, clothes-pins, clips, weights and also such articles as candles, spoons and towels.

On the whole sex toys can be really multifarious and it is the BDSM girls’ decision where to establish the boundaries and how far to go. We recommend that choosing these toys is made with the main safety credo in mind.
 

Enjoy the journey

You might feel silly or awkward the first few times you are dating a kinky escort. You will have to learn to tie a fancy knot or command her on her knees. We all made mistakes during our initial steps into this world. Don’t worry as this game of kink is all about discovering new techniques, desires and dreams. Try to stay open-minded and remain non-judgemental. Don’t lose your spirit of adventure. Enjoy, but never forget to stay safe!
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